How To Get Unstuck

Getting Unstuck

That which does not kill us only makes us stronger!

A woman was out walking in the forest when she happened across a branch with a cocoon attached to it. Thinking how interesting it would be to see a butterfly emerge and   fly  away, she snipped off the branch and brought it home and put it in a safe, warm place, and waited for the butterfly to appear. After several days, a small hole appeared and a head started to appear from the cocoon. Slowly, it emerged, and then it seemed to get stuck. For hours, it struggled and wriggled and strained against the hole, trying desperately to break free.

Seeing the struggle, and impatient to see the butterfly break free, the young woman gently pried open the hole giving the butterfly more room to struggle free: In a few moments, out wriggled a butterfly with shrivelled wings and a swollen abdomen. Unable to  fly  without its wings, the butterfly crawled around a few days, and then died, never having felt the freedom of flight.

What the woman, in her impatience, never understood was that the butterfly’s struggle for freedom from the cocoon was what it needed to force the fluid from it’s abdomen into it’s wings so that it would be ready for flight. Getting out of the cocoon had to be difficult, if not the butterfly would not have had the strength to  fly .

A few months ago, I had been like that butterfly.

I had found that my work load had been increasing, I had many projects on the go and I was stuck in a place that seemed to keep me bound with no sign of release. Struggle as I did, it seemed as if I was getting nowhere… except more and more behind.

Feeling sorry for myself, I almost felt like giving up.

I started to complain to whoever would listen, and I was becoming more negative about many things.

Then one day, almost as if I was waking up from a dream, I felt like I couldn’t stand it any more, I absolutely HAD to do something or I felt like I would suffocate in my own pool of problems. I said “This is it. If I don’t make some forward movement today, I will revisit my vision and readjust my direction in life and make some changes. I simply cannot live in my self-created bondage. I have to break free.

If it means doing something drastic, then I have to do it.”

I was resolved, I was determined, and I was focused to do anything that I could to get out of the rut that I had found myself in, and move forward with my life. I had reached the point of no return where going back was not an option, and moving forward was my only choice.

And then, as it often does when we make up our minds to change, clarity settled on me and I made some adjustments on my attitude and my actions and I was able to get results. I needed that struggle to develop the abilities, or wings, if you may, that I needed to break free and  fly .

Many of us have challenges that seem to trap us in our own cocoons. We struggle, and fight to break free, but it seems as if the more we struggle, the more entangled we become. Sometimes, if we have been struggling for long enough, we seem to give up and accept the fact that we are trapped: all of the fight gone, we just lie there and wait for our demise. Some people call this a rut or a cage or a dead end job, but call it what you will, it IS a trap, and whether we realize it or not, it is one that we choose to remain in.

7 signs that you may be stuck in your cocoon:

  1. You have a hard time telling what day it is… and what’s more you just don’t care anymore. Life seems to be a never ending day of drudgery.
  2. You have no enthusiasm or important goals for your life. You don’t get excited about much anymore.
  3. You look more forward to what’s on TV tonight, than spending time with the important people in your life.
  4. You find yourself playing the victim. You are a chronic criticizer and complainer.
  5. You are quick to anger, and slow to forgive.
  6. You are happy with being just average… and you don’t care.
  7. You find yourself laying awake at night worrying about the same things that you worried about the day, week, month or year before.

Freeing yourself is nothing more than a choice. “Yeah, sure” you may be saying, “That’s easy for you to say, but how do you do it?”

Here’s the simple way to free yourself from your cocoon.

Write a vision for your life and carefully consider and visualize to following questions. Remember that the size of your question determines the size of your results:

  1. What do I really want to create in my life? What do I want my life to look like? What do I want to be doing ten years from now that energizes me? Who do I want to be with who will complete me? What do I want my spiritual life to be like? What do I want my financial life to be like? Etc.
  2. When do I want my results to happen?
  3. What resources do I need to generate action?
  4. Why is achieving these things important to me?
  5. Who is responsible for my success in life?

Remember that if you don’t have a vision for your life, someone else does and it may not be what you want it to be. You have to take back control, but your results will happen much better and faster if you create a vision that is so big that it forces you to include others in the completion of it. This will get you in action, and provide momentum for success.

So, don’t be afraid of getting stuck in your cocoon. That snag may be just what you need to find a better way or a stronger ability within yourself. Just don’t give up and stop struggling. Only the weak do that. Kick a little harder, push a little stronger, pray a little louder but keep moving, and when you do, you will find yourself one day with wings to  fly  you through the challenges that once kept you bound.

Make this your best week ever.



Source by Paul Kearley